The Delhi
incident on 16th of December, the day when a girl was gang-raped shocked
the whole country. It was not for the first time that this made me to give it a
thought. I started to analyze my surroundings, read blogs, news and lots of
articles to know the reason behind this. The people involved in this iniquity
are surprisingly those whom we call “Civilized”. But it shocks when I got to
know that those most-of-the-guys are highly educated. No, I am not talking
about rape here but another kind of sexual harassment which almost every woman
goes through in her life. Eve Teasing. So how am I relating the Delhi incident
with this another evil of society? Certainly for some of you there seems no
relation but I think there is. Whistles, comments, lewd stares, cheap gestures
and a lot more, to derogate the woman, the species to which our mothers, sisters,
wives belong to. The doer is unaware of how much a single act of eve teasing
can change whole life of an individual. It brings in fear, disgrace, isolation
from the society and in some cases even suicides with it.
But as you all
are aware what eve teasing is all about, I want to discuss more on why it is
done and with what mentality those guys are in who do this heinous act. I have
noticed that whenever boys are in a group, then only they use to tease the girls.
Those guys in a group think that it is a moment of pride for them when they use
to annoy any girl. Normally you will not see any single guy torturing girls in
public. Another fact is that men who use do this are especially single, they
have never been in any relationship and that’s why they don’t respect girl. It is
a kind of outburst because of the frustration caused due to loneliness in their
life and they release it on girls in the form of eve teasing. The reason behind
this is that I have seen many of my friends who use to do this but as soon as they
came in a relationship, they not only stopped such acts but also made a
distance from the friends and people who continued to do so.
I also want to
talk about another species of men which is completely different. I don’t know
whether it comes under this category or not but it is necessary to discuss about
them too. There are guys who are friends with girls at schools, colleges or at
their workplace. Some of them are very well behaved and mannered in front of
the ladies. It is good to be so, but what happens as soon as they are with
their male friends making derogatory remarks and commenting on the characters
of the women they use to work or spend time with. I don’t feel it is an inch
different from the eve teasing. It is just that they are doing on their back
and not in front. It becomes hard to believe especially when I see such kind of
acts done by the people around me, studying in the premier institutes. Yes, the
Gen Y who wants the change in every sector is not ready to change their
perceptions about women. It is not any technology which needs to be changed but
the mind and therefore it will take a hell lot of time.
Though it is an
offence and if not offence then too morally it is not justified but I
personally feel that there is a big difference between a rapist and an eve
teaser. I mean most of the teasers would not do such a disgrace act. They do it
for fun but that doesn’t mean I am advocating them. If you are bringing
dishonor to a woman then it is an offense. But eventually it is the Women who
have to take the initiative to terminate this evil, show their outrage, because
unwittingly they only encourage men to do so by ignoring when they use to tease
them. They are even hesitant to tell their parents. It is where they get over
women and do this cheap act again and again.
It is a request
to the men of the society not to bring the shame especially to your mothers who
gave birth to you. Instead you should start to bring the change in you as well
as in the surroundings. Or think the other way around; a stranger troubling you
unnecessarily. How would you feel then? Or what if a woman in your family going
through the same phase? What will you do? I feel happy when I make people
realize, those involved in such craps, their mistake and encourage them not to
repeat. I hope you people will also respect women around you apart from the
ones in your family. Give it a try. Respect them. Take a pledge to curb this
evil from the society. You will certainly feel a broad smile on your face if you
will become the reason for this change.
#ChangeinIndia
